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Missing Pieces Page 119 by AudreyCosmo13 Missing Pieces Page 119 by AudreyCosmo13
Page 119 and loads of text.

Ok now READ THAT DESCRIPTION, maybe it can help you.

At first, I hadn't plan on writing that last panel so, here is its story:
Most of MP had already been written (in case I die choking on a cookie some other talented artist can draw it!) when I met that guy, yes you know -that- guy, and fell in love with him. He didn't look like a very happy guy and I fell in that well-known trap: playing the St Bernard. I was blinded by love and sure I could make him change and be happy - because you know, I was SO different from the others - oooh that fatal error! At first it went ok as usual but very quickly, like in two months, he changed. He got angry for the most ridiculous reasons, he was never happy, always complaining. In fact he didn't change, he just showed himself as he really was underneath the pretense of the first months. Fastforwarding the numerous episodes of that disastrous relationship let's just say he ruined my life for more than a year and a half. The nicer I was, the more irritable he became (like sulking for a whole evening without saying ONE word because my salad dressing wasn't good enough <-- true story), the saddest I got. I fell into depression (I mean the real stuff), I lost 10 kilos in a few months, I cried almost every day because he gave me at least one reason to cry almost every day... I had no pleasure in life anymore, I wanted to do nothing, see nobody... I realized it was really bad the day when I thought I finally understood why some people wanted to commit suicide... and still it went on... because that type of guys knows how to prevent you from leaving, don't they...

And one day as I was reading my script for MP... I realized... I had become Zira! That character I had never really liked or understood? I was just like her! I couldn't understand her better!

That man was just like Scar. He didn't like himself and he was incapable of loving someone else. Worse, he was like a black hole (or an asshole I must say...): he sucked all my enthusiasm and my good moods away. I gave him all I could: my time, my love, my energy. It was never enough and he never gave me anything back. No love, not even tenderness, no fun, no "thank you", nothing but criticism and reproach, (and also the impression of being either a piece of furniture in my own house or a sex object...hmm so nice!)...

So ladies, here is my humble piece of advice. Should you meet someone who's always sulking, who's never happy about what he's got in life, who's never happy about what you do for him, who constantly belittles you or complain about what you do wrong while never emphasizing what you do right... RUN AWAY!!!!
Give that person the number of a good psychiatrist (he'll say no of course but that's none of your business) and run away.
Those guys are toxic and they know perfectly how to keep you under control, because they know perfectly how to make you feel guilty. For months I thought I was doing things wrong.. Don't make the same mistake, learn from mine and never ever waste your love and energy for someone who obviously doesn't love you back.
Oh sure, when you leave him he'll swear to God he loves you and he may even cry, but that's not love, that's just the reaction of a kid who's lost his favourite toy. Toys can be broken you know... and it's very hard to repair those wounds. So run away.
I was stupid not to see the signs and not to listen to my friends who all advised me against him.
But at least I learnt a good lesson.

Here is my final point:
When you love someone you're nice to him aren't you? And you want him to be happy. And you like saying nice things to him. You want to make him laugh. You don't want to be mean or hurt him. You're sad when you see him sad, aren't you?

So let's be logical shall we?: if your man makes you sad, if he isn't nice to you, if he doesn't want to kiss you or hug you, if he makes you cry, if he can resume watching his movie while you're crying on the other side of the sofa AND complain because your sobs prevent him from hearing what his fave actor is saying on screen (<-- true story), if whatever you do is never good enough to him, then he DOES NOT love you. And he's propably a heartless neurotic bastard. Period. Full Stop.

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Why did I write this?
- first because a lot of people in their comments don't understand Zira's reactions. And I can understand THEM. Nobody can understand this situation have they not experienced it themselves...
- second because I feel good now and I'd like to throw my happiness at that bastard's face!
- and last but not least because if I can help ONE single girl who'll remember this rant when she meets one of -those- guys, then I'll be happy.
I wish you all never to live what I lived.

Sorry for the grammar mistakes. And now back to the story...
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carmillad Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2014
Wow, I admire you for sharing something so personal to help others to keep an eye open. Indeed, I think Zira's dedication towards Scar is blind and too intense to notice that he doesn't care about her the same way she does for him, and let's be honest here, there are many men and women in the same situation.
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VioletWhirlwind Featured By Owner Dec 2, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I've never been in a romantic relationship...at all OR with somebody like that...In fact, I shy away from romance at all, but...

What do you do when the toxic person is not a romantic interest but a BOSS?  Probably not what I did, that's for sure, but I saw no other way out of it than to give her a piece of my mind.  I got out of it...but am still haunted by it, and I don't want to be anymore, but it keeps coming back.
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Grey-Wolf1 Featured By Owner Aug 22, 2013  Student Filmographer
I was in that same rift 3 years ago took me 8 months of neglecting friends, family, luckily no children where involved but it only got worse and abuse played a big part in it. I opened my eyes and shattered their face with a SHOE! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Power to the women in this world to fight back against these types of people who have no remorse.

Amazing story along the way. Good work on realizing what was in front of you, I hope it does help someone.
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scar111 Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2013
I'm so sorry about your old boyfriend
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julianwilbury Featured By Owner Jul 20, 2013  Student General Artist
Late comment, I dropped by your page and saw I wasn't following you anymore? The heck? Whatever, it's fixed.

I'm sorry. I figured whatever went down wasn't pretty, but of course, we hadn't talked in a long time so it didn't seen right to ask.
I'm just glad you're still here, and you've learned, and sharing your story with others, lest we end up like Zira did. 

*HUGS YOU TIGHT* Sorry we don't talk much anymore. I STILL need to draw some gryphons for you (would be better than the last stuff I drew for you :P ) What actually brought me back to your page was the pic of Nuka with little cubby Kovu... :)
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AudreyCosmo13 Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2013
Aww thank you for that comment. I'm sorry we don't talk much too. But I have to say Real Life (happy or not) is quite demanding; I'm not online as often as I'd like and I struggle to find time to draw.

Let's spread the love of gryphons/griffins/whatever! My next comic is about griffins now that you mention them. But slow as I am I'll probably upload the first page in 200 years! :D

:hugs:
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Esteff12 Featured By Owner Jun 28, 2013  Student Artist
My dear, thank you for sharing that part of your life with all of us. You are absolutely right on what you said, and be sure that you are saving more than one here.

pd: really awesome story!!
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VitaniZiraBubblegum Featured By Owner Mar 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh my poor Zira, don't worry, I'm sure vitani will come soon
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KiraFoxx Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Student Filmographer
May I say I stumbled across your comic and took half an hour out of work time to read it, and I don't regret a single second. Missing Pieces is insanely good, to the point where it seems as if the script was straight from Disney.

As response to everything you said in your description, I'm not in that kind of relationship right now, but my sister is. He constantly terrorizes her emotions, makes her feel like she does everything wrong, then reels her back in after a break up (which has happened about fourteen times now). It pains me to see this happen. Especially since she'd call me sobbing in the middle of the night, then tell me everything is okay and to forgive him the next morning. What disheartens me even more is that every time I try to speak against him, she gets furious and defends him. It's like battered wife syndrome, only there's no marriage. I hope that they never get to marriage, but those are just hopes; she's been with him four torturous years.
I'm glad you broke out of that cycle. You have more strength and courage than most women, it's admirable.
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AudreyCosmo13 Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013
Thank you for your comment and I'm glad you like Missing Pieces.

I'm really sorry to hear about your sister and I hope she'll realize one day how he really is..
The sad thing in those stories is that you can't help the person. She's blind until something falls into place in her mind.
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